Young women today have it tough...

Jordan Ramos slammed bouncers at Union Bar

College student sues after bouncer wouldn’t let her dance on bar because she was too fat

Daily Mail: A 21-year-old woman has accused the bouncers at her local pub of discrimination after she was banned from dancing on the bar because she was told she was too fat.

ABC News reports Jordan Ramos, a student at the University of Iowa, who describes herself as ‘plus-sized’, says she was with friends at Union Bar in Iowa City last month when she tried to climb onto the bar. Miss Ramos says she was told to get back on the floor because she ‘was not pretty enough’ and was ‘obviously pregnant’.

She told the network she waited until a few girls stepped off to make room and tried a second time to stand on the platform – but was stopped again. Miss Ramos said a friend confronted the manager, but he refused to discuss the matter and asked the women to leave.

‘There was only one difference: I am a plus-sized individual,’ she told ABC. ‘The bouncer said “Look, you will never get up on this platform. Go back to the dance floor where you belong.”‘

She returned to the bar again on April 14, and was again rejected. ‘He said, “You’re not pretty enough and you’re pregnant.” I said, “I can tell you with 100 percent certainty that I am not pregnant.” He then looked at my stomach and said, “You obviously are.” They knew I was not pregnant; it was their way of calling me fat without having to actually say it,’ she said.

Miss Ramos filed a complaint with the Human Rights Commission, but officials told her they could not investigate because size discrimination is not illegal.

The incidents, she said, have made her question her worth. She told the Des Moines Register: ‘It made me start questioning myself and thinking, “Are my friends so much better than me?” I know they’re thinner, but those bouncers made them seem more valuable.‘

She told the website she was surprised the incidents took place in Iowa City, which she considers ‘open-minded’. ‘We all paid the same cover to get into the Union, but we’re not given access to all the same things they have to offer,’ she said. ‘I feel like it is their job to provide everybody a great time, especially if everybody pays the same price.‘

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First of all, I know Jordan is young and dancing on a bar may sound like fun. But girlfriend, if that is the measurement of your worth, you need to really do some soul-searching. A fulfilled life is so much more than dancing on a bar. Love, family, God, a calling – that defines your worth.

I don’t blame Jordan completely for her insecurities. The media make women into something the majority of us are not – hot, model-like, skinny babes. Check out a few blatant examples below.

Photoshop of Kimora Lee Simmons, obviously not that skinny

Photoshop of Faith Hill, looking quite normal in the picture on the left

Photoshop of Cameron Diaz with her “chipmunk cheeks” virtually erased

I wish young girls didn’t 1) feel so much pressure to be skinny, and 2) measure their “worth” by whether or not they are allowed to dance on a bar or are skinny. Woman should embrace their looks or try working out if you need to lose some weight, or accept your body as is.

After all, the true meaning of what you do with your life won’t be measured by dancing on a bar nor having a Photoshopped magazine cover. If you can embrace that concept you just might have a good time in life!

DCG